Mondays With Tas: Discrimination

Experiencing discrimination and privilege as a Black & White Autistic person.

a wooden bench with the words racism is a pandemic painted in white, black and red.
Photo by Ehimetalor Akhere Unuabona on Unsplash Image text:“Racism is a pandemic”

We were born to a Black father and a White mother. From the day we were born the families on each side hated us. We were too dark for the white side and too light for the black side.

We were rejected.

Throughout life, we experience this rejection from both communities over and over. In fact, today it happened again.

A person told us that we do not belong in Black spaces because we are not really Black. When you are like us — Black & White — you face hate from both sides. You are never entirely accepted by either community.

You live in limbo.

It hurts to be told that a part of you isn’t good enough. As an autistic person, it is hard to find a community. This interaction came from an autistic person — even in the community where we feel the most at home — people find a reason to hate.

Acceptance of the feeling

We can’t pretend that this didn’t hurt. It happens to us all the time and we still feel the anger, and the sadness and try to understand the “why.” In reality, there is no valid reason for people to hate and reject people based on skin.

Humanity created a division in the world. Humanity created hate. Humanity created oppression.

Levels of privilege

Privilege exists even when people try to ignore it. white cis-gendered males will have better access to equality than white cisgender women. White cis-gendered women will have better access than white cis-gendered disabled women.

The list is endless! Recognizing privilege matters. We are a person of color, disabled, neurodivergent, who lived in poverty, queer, nonbinary, and transgender. Where do you think our privilege is? Rest assured we have it too!

If we apply for a job alongside a Black nonbinary trans person and the employer discriminates — we may have a higher chance of getting that job.

Everyone has a privilege in life.

Moving forward

The experience today reminded us that implicit and explicit bias cannot go unchecked. Hate starts with the person. It is important to be introspective so that implicit bias doesn’t grow into a bigger issue.

We are not resentful toward the individual that was discriminating. Honestly, it helped us step into reality. Our goal is to always be self-aware so that our actions don't harm others intentionally or unintentionally. This circumstance solidified our determination to always improve how we treat others.

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Tas is an autistic, queer, nonbinary, person of color that a neurodivergent writer. They are advocates for social justice, and equality, and are scholars of life.

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Tas (they/them)

Tas (they/them)

We are autistic members of the disability community and hold various mental health diagnoses. We are advocates for social justice, writers and scholars of life.